Ladies: How to take bigger and longer toys?

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First-time sex toy buyer and asipiring hotwife here. I've been wanting a toy for vaginal use and decided to pull the trigger on a black dildo.

I was browsing last week and thought to myself that if I were to buy myself a sex toy, it may as well be bigger than my husband and bigger than the average cock. How wrong I was.

This thing is girthy. Measurements (that I didn't double check with a ruler when buying 😭) - Diameter: 5cm (2 inches), Circumference: 16.5cm, 7" of insert-able length. I'm 5'2 and this thing is almost the size of my arm.

I realized as soon as it arrived today that it's way too big. Lubed it, tried it, could barely get the first 3 inches in. Once it got in, it felt amazing.. for about 10 seconds. It was too painful to go any further so I gave up for the night. It's cute on the outside, but what's the point if it can't take it deep?

Thinking I might need to get the smaller size (3.5cm or 1.5") and work my way to the 2 inch, just so that it's not a complete waste of money, or just try again with it when I'm more sexually obligated. I haven't had sex in months either.

Does anyone have advice on taking a larger toy like this? I've heard the trick is extra lube and getting very relaxed. And are there any positions that would be best for this? I figure worst case this turns into a toy for oral practice 🤷‍♀️
 
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My personal experience: a huge one isn't always for everyday use. I like a bbc in real life, and a bbc dildo when I don't have a real one .......... BUT on a daily, bi-weekly, or weekly basis, a huge dildo isn't something that works for me. My body doesn't get turned on enough, relaxed enough and wet enough to take it on a regular Wednesday night with my husband. Now ...... if I see some bbc porn and I get super horny, then Wednesday night works. lol Be patient with yourself, get to know your body and when a huge one works, and take it slow. It's a marathon, especially if you're preparing for a real bbc. 🩷
 
DDbbclover said:
My personal experience: a huge one isn't always for everyday use. I like a bbc in real life, and a bbc dildo when I don't have a real one .......... BUT on a daily, bi-weekly, or weekly basis, a huge dildo isn't something that works for me. My body doesn't get turned on enough, relaxed enough and wet enough to take it on a regular Wednesday night with my husband. Now ...... if I see some bbc porn and I get super horny, then Wednesday night works. lol Be patient with yourself, get to know your body and when a huge one works, and take it slow. It's a marathon, especially if you're preparing for a real bbc. 🩷
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Speaking for the horse hung men out there. This is exactly right.
 
DDbbclover said:
My personal experience: a huge one isn't always for everyday use. I like a bbc in real life, and a bbc dildo when I don't have a real one .......... BUT on a daily, bi-weekly, or weekly basis, a huge dildo isn't something that works for me. My body doesn't get turned on enough, relaxed enough and wet enough to take it on a regular Wednesday night with my husband. Now ...... if I see some bbc porn and I get super horny, then Wednesday night works. lol Be patient with yourself, get to know your body and when a huge one works, and take it slow. It's a marathon, especially if you're preparing for a real bbc. 🩷
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This is super helpful! I like the idea of taking it only every once-in-a-while, I was wondering how some women manage to take it every night 😂

I'll get to the real BBC one day, hopefully 🤣
 
fju80852 said:
First-time sex toy buyer here. I've been wanting a toy for vaginal use and decided to pull the trigger on a black dildo.

I was browsing last week and thought to myself that if I were to buy myself a sex toy, it may as well be bigger than my husband and bigger than the average cock. How wrong I was.

This thing is girthy. Measurements (that I didn't double check with a ruler when buying 😭) - Diameter: 5cm (2 inches), Circumference: 16.5cm, 7" of insert-able length. I'm 5'2 and this thing is almost the size of my arm.

I realized as soon as it arrived today that it's way too big. Lubed it, tried it, could barely get the first 3 inches in. Once it got in, it felt amazing.. for about 10 seconds. It was too painful to go any further so I gave up for the night. It's cute on the outside, but what's the point if it can't take it deep?

Thinking I might need to get the smaller size (3.5cm or 1.5") and work my way to the 2 inch, just so that it's not a complete waste of money, or just try again with it when I'm more sexually obligated. I haven't had sex in months either.

Does anyone have advice on taking a larger toy like this? I've heard the trick is extra lube and getting very relaxed. And are there any positions that would be best for this? I figure worst case this turns into a toy for oral practice 🤷‍♀️
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Try to ride it if not have your husband loosen you up with two or three fingers that what mine did🫦🫦 i will send you pictures if I can fit it in I know you can girl 🥰 I just can’t deep throat it 😻😅yet
 
I recommend that you try Doc Johnson ultraskyn toys. They are much more life like in my experience. They require more care when you store them but they are very soft and flexible. I'm not a fan of hard rubber or silicone ....
DJ also has multiple sizes so you can work your way up. I usually warm up with a 7 inch 🙃
 
I think it is like take the big dick, you have to be excited about it, maybe use finger to open a little first, then relax while it go in, and let your body feel and adjust. I am 4' 11" 105 and I know this feel big but even I have had bigger guy inside of me. I hope you enjoy, it feel so good to be so full and feel so deep inside
 
what I do is I start with a smaller not drastically smaller but a size or two smaller than the big one. I play with that one for awhile get a couple orgasms and get myself nice and wet and juicy then I bring out the big boy. You can't just go straight to the biggest one you have to work up to it with other ones first and get yourself good and wet and stretched open for it. couple pics for examples bottome pic is of a smaller one i use to get ready for the big one in the top pics20230323_124156.jpg20230323_124203.jpgN19-1019_390-100ppi-tx.jpg
 
fju80852 said:
First-time sex toy buyer and asipiring hotwife here. I've been wanting a toy for vaginal use and decided to pull the trigger on a black dildo.

I was browsing last week and thought to myself that if I were to buy myself a sex toy, it may as well be bigger than my husband and bigger than the average cock. How wrong I was.

This thing is girthy. Measurements (that I didn't double check with a ruler when buying 😭) - Diameter: 5cm (2 inches), Circumference: 16.5cm, 7" of insert-able length. I'm 5'2 and this thing is almost the size of my arm.

I realized as soon as it arrived today that it's way too big. Lubed it, tried it, could barely get the first 3 inches in. Once it got in, it felt amazing.. for about 10 seconds. It was too painful to go any further so I gave up for the night. It's cute on the outside, but what's the point if it can't take it deep?

Thinking I might need to get the smaller size (3.5cm or 1.5") and work my way to the 2 inch, just so that it's not a complete waste of money, or just try again with it when I'm more sexually obligated. I haven't had sex in months either.

Does anyone have advice on taking a larger toy like this? I've heard the trick is extra lube and getting very relaxed. And are there any positions that would be best for this? I figure worst case this turns into a toy for oral practice 🤷‍♀️
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Sadly my advice would be to shelf the large toy until you are ready. Get yourself something fun that feels good and fits. If it is something that you cannot use or cause discomfort chances are it's going to sit on the sidelines and discourage you as well. Find something smaller for the time being that fits well and brings you enjoyment. It might be some trial and error on your part but then you'll start learning what areas you're ready to step up on and what areas you're at a limit.
 
TessaWicked said:
what I do is I start with a smaller not drastically smaller but a size or two smaller than the big one. I play with that one for awhile get a couple orgasms and get myself nice and wet and juicy then I bring out the big boy. You can't just go straight to the biggest one you have to work up to it with other ones first and get yourself good and wet and stretched open for it. couple pics for examples bottome pic is of a smaller one i use to get ready for the big one in the top picsView attachment 7808813View attachment 7808815View attachment 7808811
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OMG so sexy!!
 
CuriousMom4Fun said:
First-time sex toy buyer and asipiring hotwife here. I've been wanting a toy for vaginal use and decided to pull the trigger on a black dildo.

I was browsing last week and thought to myself that if I were to buy myself a sex toy, it may as well be bigger than my husband and bigger than the average cock. How wrong I was.

This thing is girthy. Measurements (that I didn't double check with a ruler when buying 😭) - Diameter: 5cm (2 inches), Circumference: 16.5cm, 7" of insert-able length. I'm 5'2 and this thing is almost the size of my arm.

I realized as soon as it arrived today that it's way too big. Lubed it, tried it, could barely get the first 3 inches in. Once it got in, it felt amazing.. for about 10 seconds. It was too painful to go any further so I gave up for the night. It's cute on the outside, but what's the point if it can't take it deep?

Thinking I might need to get the smaller size (3.5cm or 1.5") and work my way to the 2 inch, just so that it's not a complete waste of money, or just try again with it when I'm more sexually obligated. I haven't had sex in months either.

Does anyone have advice on taking a larger toy like this? I've heard the trick is extra lube and getting very relaxed. And are there any positions that would be best for this? I figure worst case this turns into a toy for oral practice 🤷‍♀️
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You have the answers already. One you’ve not had penetration for many months, so why go huge and uncomfortable? Get the smaller one and enjoy! Then maybe after several weeks once you’ve gotten accustomed to the smaller one change course and take the smaller out and go for it with larger after starting and pumping her good with the smaller- and go slowly! You’re not in a race and a tear is not going to feel good! Relaxation and comfort are what it is all about! Once you’ve gotten used to the larger size and can take a little more than half and can pump it. use a vibe on your clit. The sensation of your pussy really full and the vibe on your clit will send you to the moon! Cnce you’ve cum good and on the edge of cumming again you may be able to take a little more length and really go at it. Enjoy yourself! The issue here is most of the people replying about dildos are men. And their opinion is always bigger is better. No it’s not. What feels good is better. Some people like and can handle giant ass dicks. Some people can’t and that’s ok too. Lots of us don’t or can’t. So go with what turns you on. Bigger is not better. Comfortable and sexy is better and great orgasms are better. For all the guys that say bigger is better let’s start on your ass with a 11” inch dick as big as a baseball bat and see how it goes….
 
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work up to it over time. start smaller. use lots of lube and practice, practice, practice - it is amazing what you can do when you work up to it. it will fit and you will love it.
 
CuriousMom4Fun said:
This is super helpful! I like the idea of taking it only every once-in-a-while, I was wondering how some women manage to take it every night 😂

I'll get to the real BBC one day, hopefully 🤣
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Noting is impossible.... life is too.short for regrets. Take decision and make your husband love what you love
 
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